introducing yes please, even MORE!

introducing yes please, even MORE!

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something new for you!

my dearest readers,

i’ve just launched a subscriber-based mailing list on substack called yes please, even more! for $5 a month, or the discounted rate of $50 for the year, you’ll get 4 weekly essays and a monthly tarot reading. not bad at all!

i’m trying substack as an alternative to patreon (especially since they aren’t sex blogger-friendly) and as a way to make a little extra money doing something i love. it also keeps me accountable to keep writing and prioritizing creative time, which is something that’s really important for my wellbeing.

there will be a mix of erotica and essays. i’m hoping it will be engaging and inspiring. please feel free to leave comments on my substack page or email me your thoughts directly using my comment form here or my contact info over at substack.

topics i’ll be exploring:

  • sexuality (natch…) and gender
  • kink and D/s
  • spirituality
  • disability, especially as it relates to bdsm and D/s
  • sexual and gender politics
  • music
  • and whatever else comes to mind as a good story!

never fear: i’ll still be writing here, of course! keep it peeled for more frequent content on the blog. there are some reviews coming and then the third installment of this series on subspace. i’m hoping to do an interview or two, a guest post, and some more erotic fiction before the end of the year as well.

the first essay, “we are three: my first kink experience,” is up now for free on my page. go read and enjoy!

thank you as always for your support. blessed samhain, my friends! 💜

things i learned on my summer vacation

things i learned on my summer vacation

photo by me.

okay, i lied. i didn’t actually take a summer vacation, unless you count a trip down south for work. but i DID learn a lot this summer – about myself, about the importance of being present in community, and about how i work and what i want to do in the coming months.

when i started this blog, i thought it would be fun to write about sex and relationships and maybe get some free sex toys to review in the process. i love to write. i love talking about sex. why not? it would give me a creative outlet and maybe i’d learn some things along the way.

all of those things happened… and more. 

things i learned about myself this summer:

i’m letting my imagination run wild for the first time in my life and it feels really good.

when i decide to do something, i go all in. 

i’m not lazy like i used to think i was.

my body is strong(er) and more flexible than i usually think.

i’m desirable.

impact play is my JAM.

i’m not half bad at gardening.

i have a good head for business… and give great head, too. 😏

i enjoy helping others reach their goals, specifically other writers and sex educators.

i am driven more than ever to create more financial and emotional security in my life.

often, all you have to do is ask. the worst anyone will say is “no.”

things i learned about community, specially the sex blogging online world:

i’m enjoy co-creating.

it’s important to conserve my emotional energy during times of upheaval.

i’m pretty good at networking. see also: asking.

we can do just about anything we imagine and we can do it together and get results.

i’m not much of a follower or joiner, but i like being in community with other like-minded folx.

save your drafts in word or google docs before putting ’em in WP!

things i learned about my career path:

what i wanted to do before is not what i want to do now.

i don’t enjoy working for people; i enjoy working with people.

i enjoy being my own boss and collaborating on something that benefits a lot of other folx.

i’m capable of learning new skills quickly.

my writing is meaningful to some people and to me.

once i get my new business really going, i never want to work in an office again.

my efforts are effective and seen and appreciated.

i have skills people want.

i want to do some form of sex work next year. thinking of sextpanther!

i want to create things that help and educate and entertain – whether as a behind the scenes helper or the star of the show.


tomorrow it’s supposed to be 60ish degrees and i am so happy to welcome autumn! it was a good summer, but bring on the sweaters and under-the-blankets sex!