weekly link-love: cleaning out the bookmarks edition

weekly link-love: cleaning out the bookmarks edition

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hello readers! it’s been a couple of weeks since i’ve done a link-love, but i’m finally back and this time i’m doing a cleaning-out-my-bookmarks session. here are a bunch of links i loved from the last couple of months.

toys and fun things to buy for yourself:

review: liberator wedge – get down on it – i was curious what other wedge owner’s thought about this lovely piece and, lo and behold, this link popped into my twitter feed. i highly recommend purchasing a liberator wedge in any case, since it can really give you a really nice boost you need, but i would say it’s a must in your collection if you have back or knee issues like me. read this review and go get yourself one!

review: the mysteryvibe crescendo – one of my favorite people wrote this great review. i’m happy to have helped as Productivity Domme. *giggle*

sexy misc:

the 5 best sex positions to send her to g-spot heaven – i’m not usually a fan of these lists, but this one actually has a couple of interesting positions i want to try. the butterfly, in particular, looks good to me if  Daddy and i can make it work. it might be good for me when i’m having a flare up OR keeping things going when we need a break from the reaaaallly hard thrusting and grinding. 😉 i will report back!

50 shades of purple: stunning paintings of roller derby butts and their bruises! – i love bruises so much! i don’t know why. but these paintings are gorgeous and so are those bruises, some of which look like planets and nebulas. love it!

relationships, communication, etc.

making an ass out of u and me – i love this piece from april 2018 about long-term relationships, negotiation, and communication. even though this is about negotiating scenes/play ahead of time, i think there’s a lot here for partners even outside the bedroom. “use your words” is my current mantra.

being owned – i love the way eye describes her emotional baggage: “In my winters I am bare and raw, so raw I fear I will be frosted to the bone and yet, spring greening always comes again, well, so far it has.” this is an all-too-brief, but beautiful bit of writing about the cognitive dissonance of feminism and D/s dynamics, a topic i’d like to explore more myself.

wanking in a relationship – i’ve thought a lot about this. i’ve had partners with varying degrees of weirdness about masturbation in relationships – whether it’s been their own reluctance to masturbate in front of me or their own issues with either of us masturbating on our own and what they think that says about the state of our union. this article from the author’s archives made me think in a more empathetic way about why we might have these less-than-ideal notions about the topic.

sex work

your mother is a whore – i’ve never read tits and sass, “service journalism by and for sex workers,” but what a great site it is! this piece is about sex workers talking to their children about the work they do and about sex more generally. fascinating.

‘not a workplace:’ julie bindel and the school of wrong abolitionism – there’s so much to unpack from this article and i need to give it another read, but i recommend.

enjoy, dear readers! 💗

review: tantus snap strap & plunge paddle

review: tantus snap strap & plunge paddle

i had been absolutely drooling over the tantus plunge paddle for several months when my sex toy dreams came true and the kind folx there sent me one to review, PLUS a second one, the snap strap. the day the box came, i practically danced a jig in the kitchen.

“i’m gonna get spaaaaaanked! i’m gonna get spaaaaaanked!”

i sang with a big smile as i bounced around the room. *i* was ready to get this party started!

i recently bought my first tantus product, the super soft c-ring, which my Daddy and i really quite like. the 100% ultra-premium silicone is the first thing you notice about tantus products. the material is velvety and cleans up surprisingly well, not to mention it’s body safe. as i took the paddle and strap out of the box, i gently rubbed the black matte strap against my cheek and sighed.

i never said i was “normal,” whatever that is.

when it came time for testing these bad boys out, i was a wee bit nervous. i’m relatively new to impact play and am very much in training to take more pain, so needless to say, i was wondering if i’d be able to walk the next day.

here’s what i discovered:

mastering the tantus snap strap

tantus snap strap
tantus snap strap

the snap strap is very… flexible, basically wobbly. it’s wise to think of this thin, 17.55-inch strap as less a paddle and more like a belt. the first smack on my bare ass had a sharp sting that took me by surprise. there is a little bit of a learning curve with the snap strap. my Daddy reports that there’s a certain wrist technique you need to master to use the snap strap effectively. he recommends stepping back a little from your subject, because the strap is actually pretty long and you can end up hitting someone in a not-so-great place if you don’t pay decent attention. for someone like me in training, i think it’s a toy to spend some time using and to work up to longer sessions with it.

tantus snap strap
tantus snap strap

it makes sense that both toys are marketed to the “advanced enthusiast;” you do need to have a good sense of control in your arm, wrist, and fingers and a decent sense of where on the body to land the blow. but the strap is not a particularly thuddy toy. instead, the plunge creates a lovely snapping, whooshing sound. it’s pretty fun once your partner gets the hang of it and, at least for me, when you alternate between this toy and another. we’re going to be working with this one for a while, i think, because i think there’s still a lot of potential here even if it takes some practice.

sex toy light bulb moment! 💡

something that has occurred to me while playing with this a few times, and having just returned from a trip, is that it’s a fairly discreet toy that can be rolled up and stored in a bag or suitcase without tipping anyone off. it just looks like a wider belt with no metal to set off detectors.

take the plunge!

although the tantus plunge paddle is also made for more intermediate/advanced players, both of us

tantus plunge paddle
tantus plunge paddle

found this toy easier to use right out of the packaging and with more than one option for pleasure! the plunge is made of the same dreamy black silicone. the paddle itself is much thicker and heavier than the snap strap, so you can get a nice thuddy smack against the skin with good control, especially since it’s a smaller toy. your partner will be closer to you when they paddle you, which leaves them ready and able to stick the 6″ insertable handle-that-doubles-as-a-shaft right into your… well, wherever you’d like. there are many fun places to put the shaft, but keep in mind that it’s not particularly bendy. it’s pretty solid and i’d be careful when inserting it. this toy is far more obvious. 😏

tantus plunge paddle
tantus plunge paddle

that said, it’s reaaaaalllly amazing to be able to switch things up quickly. i enjoyed having it jammed into my mouth while being penetrated by my partner. it really spiced things up for me and i felt super subby as Daddy grabbed it out of my mouth and began spanking me with the paddle again. it’s also amazing when alternated with the strap. you get a sting, then another sting, then maybe a few thuds from the plunge, and another sting from the strap.  there are just so many options here!

the only downside (and it’s not at all that dire…)

my only issue with the plunge paddle is the hole that’s drilled into the insertable handle. you have to make sure to clean out that part of the toy after every use because it could get really gunked up and gross. it would probably be better product design to eliminate the hole that presumably you’d use to hang it up. (this is a toy you’ll want to display due to its elegant minimalist design, but you don’t really have to hang it up, do you?) this is really the only qualm i have. the issue of maintenance is easily answered by popping your plunge into the dishwasher or boiling in a pot of water to sanitize. on the go, both of these silicone sweeties clean up well with my fave afterglow cleansing tissues, but you can even use bleach if necessary.

summing it up

overall, i’m very pleased with both plunge paddle and the snap strap, especially alternating them in the same session. be ready to put in a bit of time and effort learning the best way to play with them, but it’s totally worth it for such high-quality body safe implements from tantus.

**thanks to tantus for providing me with these two products to review in exchange for my honest review.